In this day and age we are constantly dealing with traumatic situations. We are bombarded with media imagery that reminds us of all the awful things happening in our world. There are tragedies happening every day that push us off our axis and cause us discomfort and sorrow. While we cannot prevent every bad thing that may happen on this planet, there ARE ways to create less anxiety in our daily lives and strive for balance in an unpredictable world.
Here are my top 3 tips on how to strive for balance in a trauma-filled world.
1) Be responsible for yourself and be aware of your triggers.
Often we allow ourselves to be subject to the whims and erratic choosing of our media outlets; if our local station chooses to show violence and corruption at 11pm on the nightly news, that's up to them. If we choose to watch it, that's up to us.
If we pay attention to it, we can often predict the patterns of the media. If there is a tragedy in the community, we know they are likely to post and re-post and re-tweet and replay the imagery and sound bytes over and over multiple times per day. We know how sensationalism works, let's make a conscious effort not to let it control our emotional safety.
If you have recently experienced a trauma in your life, consider reaching out to a close friend or family member, or perhaps seeking out therapy for your situation. If you have identified what your "triggers" are, do your best to avoid them as you are working through the healing process of your situation. Having a support system that you trust is key to finding your way through difficult times.
2) Manage your day to day by starting the morning not stressed out.
This might sound like an obvious tip BUT you'll find it can be more challenging to manage than you may think! What's the first thing you do when you wake up every morning? I hope it's not check your phone notifications. However, for many people, reaching for their cell phone is often the very first thing they do each day. I'm not saying that using your phone as an alarm is the absolute worst thing you can do, but what I want you to notice is how sensitive your mind is to influence at that first eye-boogie wipe.
When you wake up, typically out of your dream-state, your mind is fluid, highly creative and open to possibilities. When you fill that fluttering mind with pre-determined junk from the news and internet, you are immediately giving over your special early morning creativity to social media. That would be like spraying water over early morning dew, why would you fill an already full glass of water with more water? The truth is, you can't fill a glass that is already full.
My recommendation: Take it old school and invest in a $4.99 analog clock and charge your phone on a dresser away from your night stand. Create at least a little bit of distance between you and your cell phone experience. Don't make your phone the last thing you engage with before you go to sleep AND the first thing you pay respects to when you wake up in the morning. Whether you decide to take a moment to breathe, or write your dream in your bed-side journal or even get pumped up to your favorite music and start your shower water, be free from media and cherish your free-thinking space.
3) Be a creator, not a consumer.
A realistic stress management plan takes time to create. One thing we DO know is that many successful people are not fully plugged into the media on a regular basis and they are doing just fine, wonderful in fact! There are folks in our communities who DO NOT consume loads of news and media every morning, noon and night and they find their creativity levels are considerably high. Be a creator! Not a consumer...at least not all the time. Unplugging really helps with inspiration and peace of mind. If you are a creative or entrepreneur that free-thinking space is something you learn to cherish and highly value. It is that time in the day where you can effectively problem-solve and be innovative! Protect that time and be intentional about what and who you let into your brain space!
All in all,
We can't always prevent tragic situations, BUT we can always choose how we will react to them. Remember, take small breaks throughout the day, work to be self-aware about situations that might upset your balance, and focus your creative energy on being innovative not just consuming others innovations!
When you're actively experiencing a trauma and you know whats going on - these tips can help you to invest in self-awareness in a way that is meaningful to your process! Know what you need to do and just do it. You simply can't put that responsibility on anyone else ...
Hello Helanah! is the creative mind behind the live event experience and workshop series Yogetree™. She is a creative entrepreneur, traveling yogini and lover of all things community. An educator and writer in spirit, Helanah teaches from the heart with love and positive intention.